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BDSM Vetting Process

Updated: Apr 3

What is the BDSM Vetting process ?


Vetting is the process of thoroughly investigating an individual before making a decision to go forward with meeting them or engaging in further contact.

Vetting Vs Vibing
BDSM Vetting process - Vetting Vs Vibing


BDSM Vetting process - Vetting Vs Vibing.


When it comes to BDSM dating there are two common approaches people take when getting to know potential partners. First is vetting and the other I like to call "vibing".


Enter into the BDSM Vetting Process and I will tell you why both have their advantages and drawbacks. Which one you choose ultimately depends on your personal preferences and priorities.


The Vetting Process


Vetting involves a more analytical and cautious approach to finding partners. It usually entails conducting thorough research and screening potential candidates before deciding to engage in any kind of play or relationship. This can include checking their online profiles and social media presence, exchanging messages or calls to get to know them better. Then generally there's meeting them in a public place before arranging any kind of play session.


The main advantage of vetting is that it can help you weed out potential partners who may not be compatible with your needs and preferences. This is particularly important in BDSM where trust, communication and consent are crucial elements of any healthy and safe play or relationship. By doing your due diligence and vetting potential partners you can reduce the risk of encountering fake or unreliable people, as well as those who may have different expectations or values.


However, vetting also has its drawbacks. For one it can be time-consuming and may require a lot of effort on your part to conduct proper research and screening. Additionally it may also create a sense of distance or mistrust between you and your potential partners. They may feel like they are being interrogated or judged before even getting a chance to know you better. This can make it harder to establish a connection or build a relationship based on mutual trust and respect.


Lets Vibe !!


On the other hand what was my choice and I called it "vibing". It involves a more intuitive and spontaneous approach to BDSM dating. It usually entails meeting potential partners in person or online and relying on your gut feeling and chemistry to determine whether or not you are compatible. This can include engaging in casual conversation, flirting , checking sexual compatibility and it's generally more light hearted and informal.


The main advantage of vibing is that it can help you establish a more immediate and genuine connection with your potential partners. By relying on your instincts and emotions you may be able to find people who share your kinks and desires as well as your personality and values. This can create a more organic and enjoyable experience where both parties can explore their mutual interests and boundaries without feeling pressured or scrutinised.


However, vibing also has its drawbacks. For one it can be risky and may lead to encountering people who may not have your best interests at heart. Without proper screening or communication you may not be able to determine whether or not your potential partners are trustworthy or safe to play with.


Find What Works For You


In conclusion both vetting and vibing can be effective ways of finding BDSM partners. The choice between them ultimately depends on your personal preferences and priorities. If you value safety, reliability, and compatibility, vetting may be the better option for you. If you value spontaneity, chemistry, and emotional connection, vibing may be the better option for you.


Ultimately the most important thing is to communicate openly and honestly with your potential partners, establish clear boundaries and expectations, and always prioritise consent and safety.


Nicholas Jardine 02/05/2023 ©