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Meeting New People in BDSM .

Updated: Apr 3

What's the best way to meet new people in BDSM?


Use apps like FET , Fetlife , Munches and Facebook groups.


Meeting new people
Meeting new people in BDSM

Meeting new people


Meeting new people in the BDSM lifestyle can be a bit intimidating, especially for those who are new to the scene. However, there are many ways to get started and make connections with like-minded individuals.


One of the most popular ways to meet new people in the BDSM community is through FetLife . Here are some tips on how to use FetLife or FET and other methods to meet new people in the BDSM lifestyle.


Create a FetLife and FET Profile


FetLife and FET are social networking sites for the BDSM community and fetlife is the go-to site for many people looking to make connections. Creating a profile is free and it allows you to connect with other people in the community. You can use your profile to share information about yourself, your interests and what you're looking for in a partner or community.


Join Groups and Attend Events


FetLife offers a variety of groups for people with different interests, kinks, and fetishes. Joining these groups can be a great way to connect with others who share your interests. You can also attend events hosted by these groups to meet new people in person. FetLife has a calendar of events that you can browse and RSVP to.


Attend Munches


A munch is a social gathering for people in the BDSM community. They are typically held in a public place like a restaurant , function room or coffee shop . They are a great way to meet new people in a non-threatening environment. Munches are often organised by local groups on FetLife and FET so keep an eye on the calendar of events to find one in your area.


Attend Play Parties


Play parties are private events where people in the BDSM community can engage in their kinks and fetishes with others. Play parties are a great way to meet new people and explore your own interests. You can find play parties by joining local groups on FetLife, FET , fabswingers or by attending events and asking around.


Be Respectful


When meeting new people in the BDSM lifestyle, it's important to be respectful of their boundaries and interests. Don't assume that everyone is into the same things as you and always ask for consent before engaging in any kind of play. Be open-minded and willing to learn from others and always be respectful of their privacy and safety.


Use Other Online Communities


While FetLife is the most popular site for the BDSM community there are other online communities you can use to meet new people. For example you can join BDSM groups on social media sites like Facebook or Reddit. You can also use dating apps like OkCupid or Tinder to find people who are interested in the BDSM lifestyle.


Meeting new people in the BDSM lifestyle can be a rewarding experience. By using FetLife and other online communities, attending events , parties and being respectful of others you can make meaningful connections with people who share your interests and kinks.

Some of you are aware we are working behind the scenes to create a website away from the restrictions of Facebook.


There will be regular educational articles but the emphasis will be on creating a community to facilitate this we will integrate forums , live chat , a seeking section as well as live interactive video chats and online munches.


Part two to follow ....


Nicholas Jardine 28/04/2023 ©