What is aftercare?
Aftercare is a broad term for how you and your partner support each other and check-in after you've had sex.
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Ok, ladies, gentleman and pronouns of choice…Let's talk about aftercare !!
Yes, that's right, aftercare - the essential part of BDSM play that often gets overlooked.
Because let's face it, when you're all tied up and spanking away, it's easy to forget about the emotional and physical toll that kink can take on you and your partner.
It's like a warm blanket for your soul, a balm for your bruises, and a snack for your tummy (because let's be real, all that bondage can work up an appetite).
So, what exactly is aftercare?
Well, it's the time after a scene when partners take care of each other's needs, both physical and emotional.
It's a chance to connect, to process any intense emotions that may have come up, and to just be there for each other in a non-sexual way.
Now, I know what you're thinking…
“But Kaylie, aftercare sounds so boring! Can't we just skip it and get right to the good stuff?"
And to that, I say: absolutely not!
Skipping aftercare is like skipping the cooldown after a workout! sure, you might be able to get away with it, but you're only hurting yourself in the long run.
Besides, aftercare doesn't have to be boring.
You can cuddle, stroke each other's hair, give massages, or even have a silly dance party to shake off any leftover tension. And of course, there's always the classic post-kink snack - just make sure you've got some water and a few snacks on hand (because no one wants to be hangry after a scene).
But most importantly, aftercare is about communication.
Make sure you and your partner discuss your needs beforehand, so that you can both get what you need from aftercare. And don't be afraid to check in with each other afterwards - ask how you're feeling, talk about what worked and what didn't, and just generally be there for each other.
There you have it, folks - aftercare, the unsung hero of BDSM play.
Whether you're a seasoned kinkster or just dipping your toes in the water, make sure you prioritise aftercare to ensure a safe, enjoyable, and downright delightful experience for all parties involved.
P.S So, don’t skip out on it both your mind and body will thank you later
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