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What are BDSM Toys?
Any toys or an object that people use to increase their sexual pleasure, such as a dildo , ropes , paddles or a vibrators.
Ready for Something New? We’ve Got types of Kinky BDSM Toys to Spice Things Up !!!
If you’re reading this, odds are you’re a proud, pleasure-seeking vibrator owner. And panties I mean hats off to you! Vibrators are a great addition to solo, partnered, and multi-partnered sex alike.
But here’s the rub: Lots of sex-having kinksters mistakenly think the joy of sex toys start and end with their buzzy BFF.
Well, spoiler alert: That’s false! And it’s extra false once you start to incorporate toys that are a little more… advanced, such as ball gags, chastity belts, and nipple clamps.
To prove our point — and to give some much-needed love to often overlooked motor-free, kinky sex toys — we put together this guide of different sex toy types for the kink-curious and BDSM-enthusiasts alike.
Whether you consider yourself a long-time participant in the BDSM scene — or just want to dip your bits into the world of kinky sex toys — this should guide your use of these toys.
Let this guide introduce you to and teach you a bit about kinky toys you may never have heard of before. But don’t let it be your only research on how to use them correctly and safely.
Blindfolds
If there’s one kinky sex toy non-kinksters aren’t snoozing on, it’s blindfolds.
Blindfolds are an incredible way to maximise a sensual experience because when you restrict one sense, the others can become stronger.
Blindfold use requires trust and strong communication skills between partners.
You don’t need a fancy schmancy blindfold — a tie or a tube sock will work fine!
Hoods
Hoods can be used for extreme sensory deprivation or to help someone get into a role for a particular scene.
Collars and chokers
From aesthetically signifying “ownership” in a BDSM dynamic to restricting breathing or movement, there are a few types of neck gear.
Collars
Collars are part of the visual accoutrement of BDSM and are worn by a submissive. They can signal that the people bestowing and wearing the collar have started a BDSM scene.
And for some D/s couples, they serve a similar purpose as wedding rings: to signify a commitment to the relationship.
For submissives, it can feel emotional or even romantic to wear one.
D/s is often used as shorthand to describe a relationship where someone leads (the Dominant) and someone follows (the submissive).
Posture collars
A posture collar is a longer, thicker collar that’s designed to encompass the neck and further restrict movement and mobility.
Chokers
Around town, chokers — like this Holographic Heart Choker — may be just another type of necklace.
Unlike collars, chokers aren’t reserved for those in committed relationships.
Gags
Gags are great for people who have oral fixations and those turned on by power exchange that happens when one partner consensually gives up their ability to verbally communicate.
To be very clear: Establishing nonverbal safe words prior to gag play is a M-U-S-T.
Ball gags
Ball gags feature a ball that goes into the oral cavity (behind the teeth). They’re secured around the head via some kind of strap.
The ball comes in varying sizes. Some are small (think: golf ball), while others are larger (think: lacrosse ball).
Mouth spreaders
Unlike ball gags, which fill the mouth, mouth spreaders open the mouth wide.
While wearers still aren’t able to verbally communicate, spreaders do give them the opportunity to be orally penetrated by their partner.
Nipple clamps
The sensation the nipple clamp provides will vary based on how tight the clamp is and where on the nipple/breast you place it
They can create a hit of (ideally, pleasurable) pain going on, a rush of intense sensation when pulled or twisted, and a serious sense of release when removed.
Genital clamps
There might be more delicious uses of genital clamps than there are genital shapes, sizes, and colours!
Impact toys
Put simply, impact play involves using impact for the purpose of pleasure.
Impact play could entail using a hand or one of the toys below to spank.
Each creates a slightly different sensation from sensual and massage-like to really frickin’ painful, from stingy to thud,
Proper technique and risk awareness are imperative for impact play. Using these toys with improper form or on less fleshy parts of the body can cause serious damage.
Make sure you practise a thousand times on your pillow before trying it on a partner.
Floggers
A flogger has a handle with a bunch of tails at the end.
Some are made of leather , silicone and others are made of chains
The more tails a flogger has at the end, the more thuddy, heavy, and pressure-y it will feel when it’s used on your body
The fewer tails it has, the stingier the sensation will be.
Paddles
Paddles pretty much look like ping-pong paddles and are designed to hit more surface area at once
This creates a lot of force and impact.
Canes
Almost always made out of wood, “canes are thinner, longer, and can be used to provide one line of stinging impact.”
Meaning, unlike paddles, which cover a lot of surface area, the sensation canes provide is really localised.
Whips
whips are the hardest toy to learn how to use correctly because whipping someone requires a ton of technique and practice.
Translation: They’re not for beginners.
When used correctly, whips apply stinging, quick slashes on the body. .
Restraints
If a lover’s arm holding your hands above your head can be hot, imagine how hot it would be if they could provide that sensation completely hands-free. That’s the gist of restraints.
There’s a wide variety of restraints people can use during sexual activity to limit someone’s mobility.
Rope
Rope bondage can be slow and aesthetic. It can involve suspension. It can be paired with all kinds of other erotic play, from impact to good old intercourse.
The material and type of rope matters, so chat with a bondage expert before buying any. This cotton rope from Doc Johnson, for example, may be a good starting point, because it’s softer on skin.
Then, spend some time learning the ropes (pun obviously intended). There are some awesome books out there, such as “The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage” by Midori, to help you learn basic knot tying skills.
Binders
Most common in the BDSM scene are arm binders which completely immobilise the wearer’s arms (unlike handcuffs which still give them a little bit of wiggle room).
Bondage tape
Bondage tape like Unbound’s Tether can be used to create makeshift hand or ankle cuffs, to secure someone’s hands down, or any number of things!
What makes bondage tape different from, say, duct tape, is that it only sticks to itself, not your skin or hair.
Shackles
Shackles refer to metal (and sometimes leather) ankle or wrist restraints, like the Slave Steel Full Body Shackle.
Spreader bars
Ever hold your legs behind your head during missionary? Spreader bars, like this Adjustable Spreader Bar, do the leg work (heh) for you.
Spreaders hold your ankles apart from each other, exposing your genitals and holding your legs in one place.
Yokes
You can think of yokes as cuffs and collars (like this stainless steel option) or shackles and collars (like this leather and chain set).
Basically, they work by connecting some combination of your neck, ankles, and neck together.
Chastity belts
Complete with lock and key, chastity belts are basically underwear that lock up your junk so that you can’t go to the bathroom or touch your own bits unless the person with the key permits it.
The locked-up nature makes chastity belts a perfect tool for power play in BDSM relationships.
Chastity cages
While chastity belts go around the entire pelvic region, chastity cages are regulated just to the genitals. They’re sometimes called “penis cages” or “cock cages” because this tool is only designed for penis owners.
Cock cages serve as a constant reminder that your cock ‘belongs’ to your Dominant. It’s the next level of ownership.
Anal hooks
Visually, anal hooks look like a cross between classic carrot-shaped butt plugs and, well, Captain Hook’s hand.
Typically made out of stainless steel, anal hooks feature a ball on one end that goes inside the anus, while the “hook” anchors it outside the body.
Friendly reminder: Anything that goes inside the anus needs a flared base or anchor.
Anal hooks also usually feature a loop at the end of the hook that can be connected to rope during bondage (especially predicament bondage) scenes.
Urethral toys
Your mouth, bum, and vagina aren’t the only holes that may enjoy being filled…
Urethral sounds
Also known as cock-stuffing, urethral sounding involves inserting a sounding tool — is a long, thin (very thin!) rod with a stopper at the end — into the urethral canal.
They’re usually made out of stainless steel, but there are some silicone options, like these Bolted Deluxe Silicone Urethral Sounds, on the market.
Electric wands
Okay, we lied. There’s one motorised toy on the list. Introducing: electric wands, aka sex toys that let you play with electricity.
Worth mentioning: There are many kinds of electro-stimulation toys, not just wands. Think cock rings, anal plugs, and even whip attachments that “strike” with electricity.
The bottom line
Kink and bondage toys can be an amazing addition to anyone’s sexual repertoire, so long as it’s with the consent and risk awareness of everyone involved.
They don’t always have the same mass appeal as vibes but they shouldn't be overlooked.
So which toys do you enjoy? Or which toys would you like to experience in the future?
Drop a comment below and let us know what are must haves in your toy box and what really makes your toes curl and why .
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