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Sub Drop.

Updated: Apr 3

What is sub drop?

Sub drop in BDSM refers to the emotional and physical low that a submissive person might experience after an intense scene or session.

Sub drop
Sub drop

Understanding Sub Drop in BDSM: Causes and Coping Strategies

BDSM, is a complex world of human interaction that involves power dynamics and intense sensations. Within this spectrum, the concept of "sub drop" is an important phenomenon to understand.

Sub drop refers to the emotional and physical low that some submissives or bottoms usually experience after an intense BDSM session or in some cases being separated from their Dom can cause a drop.

In this article, we will look at what sub drop is, its underlying causes, and effective ways to overcome it.

Defining Sub Drop:

Sub drop is identified by feelings of emotional vulnerability, fatigue, sadness, and even depression that can occur after a BDSM scene or session. It's often compared to the emotional crash that some individuals experience after an adrenaline rush. Just as a rollercoaster ride can lead to feelings of excitement followed by a sense of emptiness, a BDSM session can evoke intense highs followed by lows.

Causes of Sub Drop:

Several factors contribute to the occurrence of sub drop. First and foremost, the release of endorphins and adrenaline during a BDSM session can create a temporary sense of euphoria. Once the session concludes, these neurotransmitters return to baseline levels, resulting in a sudden shift from intense pleasure to emotional depletion.

Additionally, the power dynamics involved in BDSM can lead to feelings of vulnerability and exposure. Submissives often entrust their well-being to their Dominants during a scene, and when the scene ends, a sense of isolation or detachment can set in.

Feelings of guilt, shame, or embarrassment might also arise due to societal stigmatisation of BDSM activities.

Sub Drop
Sub Drop

Overcoming Sub Drop:


Open and honest communication between partners is paramount. Both the Dominant and submissive should discuss their feelings before and after a session. Establishing aftercare rituals and checking in with each other's emotional states can provide a sense of security.


Aftercare involves post-session care and comfort to help ease the transition from the intense experience to the everyday world. This can include physical touch, cuddling, soothing words, or even a warm bath. Aftercare not only aids in emotional recovery but also strengthens the bond between partners.


Submissives should engage in self-care activities that bring them joy and relaxation. Engaging in hobbies, practising mindfulness, or spending time with loved ones can help alleviate feelings of emptiness.

Hydration and Nutrition:

Physical well-being is connected to emotional well-being. Drinking water and consuming nourishing food can help stabilise mood and energy levels.

Avoid Isolation:

Engage in social activities or reach out to supportive friends or online communities. Connecting with others who understand BDSM dynamics can provide validation and a sense of belonging.

Mindfulness Techniques:

Techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, and grounding exercises can help manage anxiety and negative emotions.

Sub drop is common within the BDSM community, stemming from the complex interplay of physiological and emotional factors. By prioritising open communication, aftercare, and self-care, both Dominants and submissives can navigate the emotional journey of BDSM more effectively.

Remember that understanding and acknowledging sub drop is crucial for creating a safe and fulfilling BDSM experience for all parties involved.

What are some of your coping strategies for sub drop? Let us know in the comments.

Kaylie Louise Bond 12/08/2023