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BDSM Acronyms

Updated: Apr 3

What is a BDSM Acronym ?


A BDSM acronym is a word formed by taking the initial letters of a phrase or a set of words and using them as a shorthand representation.


BDSM Acronyms
BDSM Acronyms

Welcome to an exploration of the intricate world of BDSM acronyms – a lexicon that unveils the rich tapestry of consensual adult relationships, dynamics, and practices. 


In this article we will unravel the meanings behind the letters that form the foundation of communication within the BDSM community, shedding light on the diverse expressions of intimacy, trust, and exploration that go far beyond their surface definitions. 


Whether you are a curious newcomer or a seasoned participant, join us as we delve into the nuanced language that fosters understanding and fosters a culture of consent and communication.


AB – Adult Baby: A person who enjoys role-playing as an infant or toddler in adult relationships or activities.


ABDL – Adult Baby/Diaper Lover: Someone who engages in both adult baby role-playing and has a fetish for diapers.


ANR – Adult Nursing Relationship: Involves adults engaging in the act of breastfeeding for erotic pleasure or as a form of intimacy.


ATM – Ass to Mouth: A sexual practice involving the transfer of the penis or an object from the anus to the mouth.


B&D – Bondage and Discipline: Refers to the consensual use of restraints and punishment in BDSM activities.


BDSM – Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism, and Masochism: An umbrella term encompassing various consensual kinks and fetishes.


CBT – Cock and Ball Torture: BDSM activities involving the infliction of pain or discomfort on male genitals.


CD – Crossdresser: A person who wears clothing and adopts a gender expression associated with the opposite sex.


CG/l – Caregiver/Little: A dynamic in which one person acts as a caregiver, often nurturing, while the other takes on a childlike role.


CNC – Consensual Non-Consensual: In BDSM, scenarios where participants act out non-consensual activities within pre-established boundaries.


D/s – Dominance and Submission: Involves power exchange dynamics where one partner takes a dominant role, and the other takes a submissive role.


DD – Daddy Dom; Domestic Discipline: A dominant partner often takes on a paternal role, including guidance and discipline.


DD/lb – Daddy Dom/Little Boy: A dynamic where a dominant partner takes on a fatherly role with a submissive partner adopting a childlike persona.


DD/lg – Daddy Dom/Little Girl: Similar to DD/lb but with a female submissive partner taking on a childlike persona.


DL – Diaper Lover: Someone with a fetish for wearing diapers, often separate from adult baby role-playing.


DM – Dungeon Monitor: An individual responsible for overseeing safety and rules at BDSM events or dungeons.


DTTAH – Don’t Try This at Home: A warning indicating that certain BDSM activities should only be performed by experienced individuals in controlled environments.


EMC – Erotic Mind Control: Involves fantasies or role-playing scenarios where one's mind is manipulated for erotic pleasure.


FEM – Abbreviation for Female, like FEM DOM: Refers to the female gender, often used in conjunction with "FEM DOM" for Female Dominant.


FFF, FMF, FMM, MMM, MMF – Refers to “Threesomes”: Indicate the gender composition of a threesome, with F for female, M for male.


FUBAR – Fucked Up Beyond All Recognition: Describes a situation or scenario that is severely messed up.


FUMTU – Fucked Up More Than Usual: Indicates a situation or event that is more messed up than usual.


FWB – Friends with Benefits: Describes a relationship where friends engage in sexual activities without a romantic commitment.


GF – Gender Fluid: A person whose gender identity is not fixed to a binary and may change over time.


LB – Little Boy: Refers to the submissive partner in a CG/l or DD/lb dynamic who takes on a childlike role.


LD, LDR – Long Distance Relationship: Describes a romantic or BDSM relationship where partners are geographically separated.


LG – Little Girl: The submissive partner in a CG/l or DD/lg dynamic who adopts a childlike persona.


M/s – Master/Slave: A BDSM dynamic involving a dominant partner (Master) and a submissive partner (Slave).


MC – Mind Control: Involves fantasies or scenarios where one's thoughts and actions are controlled for erotic pleasure.